Taking one step forward only to feel like we’re sliding three steps back.

There’s something I’ve been contemplating: no one should be naive. It's important not to be too honest and to avoid revealing your vulnerable side to anyone, even if they are the closest person to you. Allowing someone access to your vulnerabilities while you're struggling isn't wise. Being honest doesn’t mean you should hide, cheat, or betray; rather, it means being smart about what you share. Consider whether sharing something will hurt another person or if there’s a better way to handle the situation.

Being vulnerable and exposing your worst moments, like a tearful breakdown, shouldn’t be necessary. There’s a part of you that is incredibly genuine, and it should remain yours alone. Not everything about you needs to be known by everyone.

Playing the victim card, seeking sympathy, and making excuses only make you appear weak in the eyes of others; nobody should be like that. The thought of someone pitying me is one of the worst scenarios I can imagine. I never reveal my entire self to anyone. You can call me a bitch, and I’m fine. Call me selfish, and I’m fine. Call me beautiful, and I’m fine. Call me absurd, and I’m fine. The real power I want is not letting anyone’s opinion affect me. No one should know when you last cried or when someone hurt you. Maturity means ensuring that no one sees your worst side because, unfortunately, people can be very cruel and will quickly turn it against you. For example, if you confide in a friend about a betrayal, they might label you as someone who’s always complaining, which is of no use.

Sharing the negativity inside you with others won’t turn it into a positive thing; it will only spread the negativity. Therefore, gather your courage and confront your problems on your own without relying on anyone else for support. You are human, and it’s important to have relationships to get through life, as we need each other. However, it’s essential to know when to set boundaries and not cross certain lines.

Trust me, keeping some things to yourself will save you, heal you, and make you feel in a way no one else can. Let yourself be with you and let no one else know you. Aur jab dil kare tab kisi ko haal bata dena apna par jab khud lad lo apne aap se uske baad.(Whenever you feel the need to talk about your situation, first take time to heal yourself before reaching out.)

I’m not saying that one should suffer in silence or keep everything to themselves; it's just that there’s a line that should not be crossed. Over-sharing isn't something that should happen.

There are times when you feel like talking, but no one is around. During these moments, I often feel alone. However, once my mood improves, I realize that it might be better that no one was available to talk to me at that time—no one got to see my vulnerable side.

The people who judge you, even in jest, say something profound. If I don't like what I hear, I wish I could respond in kind, but I often can't. Still, the insults linger in me—the laughter and giggles when I did nothing wrong, the day my accent was deemed unworthy, and the moments when my loyalty was questioned. I remember my time in school with my best friend group, all four of them sharing the same birthday on the 10th, while my birthday is on the 11th. They would jokingly say, "We’re all the same, but you’re not. We unite while you don't. Our telepathy works, but yours doesn't," and as a kid, I didn't think much of it.

Now, though, I feel grateful that they are no longer in my life. I've come to realize my worth and understand that I didn't belong there.

Yes, you may take one step forward and then fall back three steps, but you do it for yourself. You do it alone, and you do it because you want to. So even falling back isn’t a tragedy; it’s a moment of happiness in the breath you take. It’s the freedom you feel when you pursue what you truly want to do. It brings a sense of calmness to your mind and fosters kindness that you carry with you further. It’s the moment you realize that even if you’re three steps back, you are still aligned with yourself.♡